Man.
Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money.
Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.
And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present;
the result being that he does not live in the present or the future;
he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.

– The 14th Dalai Lama

Do you make new year resolutions? Do you reflect on the year and figure out how to do better, be better, and what you are grateful for? I saw the above quote and I just sat there and thought about it. I have been all about bettering my health and wellness as well as making a better life for me and my family. It also made me think of a conversation I had recently with my oldest daughter. She has gained weight and her self esteem is pretty low.  There is a young man that she has been talking to online for awhile now and she is chicken to meet him (she is not social like her mama that is for sure). She is even more afraid to meet him after the weight gain. I told her to stop putting her life on hold she is going to be 28 years old and she needs to live and have fun now. I warned her to be careful or she will look back on her 20s and regret not living her life.

One good thing is she is in school so that will contribute to a goal she has. When I ask her what are some things she enjoys to do, she said she doesn’t even know anymore. She feels like the things she enjoyed doing years ago she doesn’t now. I told her that is the fun of life interests change and that is ok. I asked her what does she want out of life? what does she want to learn? where does she want to go? I found some journal prompts on Pinterest so I emailed them to her and told her to answer the questions and go from there.

The one thing I have been tired of saying is we can’t afford to do…….

Now that I am not in school anymore I feel like I can get back to living life and I need to figure out what I want to learn next. Lots of thinking and journaling to do!

ta ta my friends

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Peace, Love, and Misuderstanding

I should be cleaning, shopping, making a menu, or even planning lessons for the next three weeks, but I’m not. I woke up to a very gray sky and not feeling too well. So I put in the movie Peace, Love, and Misunderstanding. I love that movie! My mom hates that Jane Fonda is in it because of what she did to the POWs many years ago. I totally get it but I still love the movie, including Jane’s character (the mom Grace). I have this book (the 52 Lists Project) that asks to list characters in movies, books, plays, etc and to find a common personality trait between the favorite characters. The home that the mom lives on is on beautiful land that has a large pond and a lot of wild animals as well as her chickens. I love her spirit and how she tries to be fun, compassionate, artistic, spiritual, and loving.  There is a part where it is a full moon and a bunch of ladies get together at Grace’s house. They have a large bon fire going, they are dancing, playing instruments, and even howling at the moon. The freedom and the connection I admire greatly. Someday I want to turn my backyard into a beautiful garden oasis. I would love to have a medicine wheel included along with lush gardens of food. Being around nature has alway recharged me and this would be a bonus to have in my backyard!

Is it bad that I don’t want to stay in this home for too much longer? We haven’t even lived here a year. I love my home and I am thankful for it but I just know there is something else out there for us. I’ve had visions of a land where I can have my home, animals, and a preschool. Now I have to do the work to make those come true. I’ve got the education down, just need the house with land so I can create the rest. I’m sure that will entail me working for a few years at a school. I am totally open for wherever I need to do to get on that path.

I feel a headache coming on so I need to take a nap. Ta ta for now….be blessed my friends!

 

My Friday Thoughts….

During a conversation with my youngest daughter, we got on the subject about her school years. She shared with me some of the mean comments people made about her or to her. I remember my oldest sharing the same problem. When I look back on my elementary years I was a quiet, shy person (yes shocking I know!) and also had a few people try picking on me. What makes someone say and or do hurt things to another human being? I shared my experiences about what I went through even when they were in school. I again told them how one day I realized these people did not know me; they did not know my likes, dislikes, my personality, nothing. Why was I allowing someone who doesn’t know me or mean anything to me hurt me? I made the decision to not listen to them and keep my attention on friends who did know me. It was weird but those other mean people stopped their crap. I will admit there was a few people that tried to bully me and that did not get them far at all. They found out very fast I was not going to put up with that at all. They changed their tune fast and somehow we ended up friends. Iyanla Vanzant had a show on colorism and how dark women felt, now she is doing one about light girls. Whether you are black, brown, or white we all have some type of insecurity and don’t feel good enough. Harsh judgements hurt us all no matter our color, gender, or ethnicity. I was jammin out to Queen last night and one of their songs, One Vision made me realize that those types of songs need to be played again and often. Music has a way of inspiring me, hopefully it can inspire others and we can have more love in the world.

I’m in a new class and it is establish history of Early Childhood Education. It talks about how children were viewed and treated as far back as Aristotle and Plato. I read that Aristotle advocated for abortion as preferable to the practice of infanticide. If I look at the reading I have done over many of my classes I could feel that men are monsters but that would not be fair because not all men are arrogant, mean, and think they are above everyone else. Women, children, slaves, and even animals have been mistreated since the beginning of time. We have changed in many ways but we still have far to go. The unfortunate thing is judging another person is always going to happen but if more people can learn to love it will be a start of having more peace and harmony in this world.

I hope when I have more students in my care I am able to lift every one of them up and make them realize they are special and worthy of good. I hope I can make a difference in their lives so as they grow they too will make a positive difference in others.

I understand more and more why in the Bible it says to be slow to anger, slow to speak, and quick to listen. LOVE we need to learn what it is, how it work, and apply it to everything. Louise Hay has taught me so much about the importance of our thoughts and changing them into positive ones and to put love into everything. Could you imagine if we all started doing this what a better world we would live in?

My day needs to start so I have to end the thoughts running around in my head for now :). Have a wonderful day my friends!

PS Dinner is going to be Cincinnati chili spaghetti, I have had a craving for it since I watched Diners, Drive Ins, and Dives